Stupid Boi and Friends

So, I am not going to do one of these silly little 2010 year in review things...I will do a Friends in review thing.  I just want to talk about some of the great people that I have meet and continue to be in my life.  They will all have nicknames so it's a little game for them to figure out!

To the Alpha to my Omega.  Damn! You are the only person who can actually handle all the crazy shit I pull.  I am really glad that you are just as fucking crazy as I am...you just won't admit it. I hope that there are many happy returns for the two of us.  One of these days...we are going to end up in jail or famous!

Anita: I am glad that I got to give you that drag name.  I just have one question for you: How the hell you gonna have me on a couch? I am glad that I actually met you. Those two weeks made the world of difference to me.  It gave me that chance to know "That I could, if I really wanted too".  The other advise: "When you walk into the room, there are 30 people just like you..." made more sense then you will ever know!  It is amazing how you can let someone into your life that cannot be easily removed!

He was looking at me! I want to say thank you for all your help this year.  You really helped me through one of the darkest moments in my life.  You housed me when I couldn't and just helped me in so many ways.  You are one of the most AMAZING human beings on this planet. And that is from a Sistas Point of View.

The Russian Spy: I don't know how or why we connected...again! I guess that was destiny! I don't know how to begin to articulate how I feel about you.  All I know is, I want you to know that you are amazing and I admire you. 

I like your jeans:  Who are you? I feel at any moment this will turn into an episode of Touched by an Angel? We have a weird connection...I don't know how to describe it. I love it.  There is something deep within you. This is strange, but sometimes you make friends with someone and after a while it fizzles.  I love that little hint of green I see when I talk about hanging out with other people! Don't worry...nobody will replace you Pati Time!

To my favorite ladies club: You make me smile...everyday! I still don't know how I would have gotten through those dark moments without your support! Thank you!

To the man who "Pays my movie bills":  I really appreciate you! You are so much fun!  I really like going to the movies and hanging with you.  I can't wait to see what kind of trouble we get into! Get the bail money ready, y'all!  PS you little southern twang is fucking adorable!

Stubborn Monkey: I want you to know that I really enjoy having someone to text! I actually really like getting texts from you everyday.  It is really nice! I hope that the future shows you that some of us are really nice people.  I promise you that "this too shall pass" (a la Ditty).  I just want you to know that I have my first aid kit handy and I am always ready to help! One of these days you will know.

These are the people who stay on my text list at all times!  I really have enjoyed meeting you! 2010 SUCKED and can kiss my ASS. You guys were the ones who made it a Fun! If you can figure out which one you are let me know!  

Stupid Boi's Greatness!

There are many difficult things in life.  I have spent my whole life feeling different then everyone around me. I just knew that my destiny was for greatness. Right now, I am homesick and wish that I could just pack it all up and move somewhere, where there is nothing to do and my friends and I could just party all day.  Alas, I am not on Logo's "A-List New York".  (Although, I would be a much better character!)

I realize that instead of chasing pipe dreams, I, in fact; know what my purpose is in this world.  I was put on this Earth to do one thing.  I know that sounds really cliche and no I did not hear the voice of G*D or anything like that.   I just know what my purpose is.  Now, if I could just figure out how to make more money doing it.

My friend, Luci, gave me the best wake up call.  She said to me "when you walk into that room, you realize that there are ten other people just like you..."  That is the best advice I have ever heard.  It had to do with something specific, but I think it translates to life.   Sometimes, it's just easier to blend into the crowd then to stand out; and sometimes its makes things easier when you realize you are not alone. 

I forgot to stop and look around at what I had, I have spent too much time trying to impress other people and taking the people in my life for granted.  I finally realized that my destiny is not greatness...it's gratefulness.   I have to be grateful for all the people who have touched my life.  I am not going to make some blanket statement about how everyone come into your life for a reason. Some people are just filler!

There are a select few people in this world that I would have to say have changed my life for the better.  Some have given me a sense of G*D and other spiritual information, some are the shoulder to lean on.  Some are there to just send you the text to say "hi" and make your entire day better. Then there are the ones who will lift you up, push you down, and slap you in the face.   All of these people are the best things that have happened. 

This past weekend, yet another person told me that I gave them the strength to "come out".   At first it made me a little angry...then I realized that I had done something great.  I always knew I was destine for greatness!  So off to new adventures...new heights...new lows...always grateful!

XOXO,
Stupid Boi

Y'all Stupid Boi is Angry.

Change! Can someone change?  I have to say that in the past couple of months, I have really hated myself.  I hate what people call me.  I know that I dug that hole.  I mean could I really be that Bitchy?  Am I the most Offensive person you know?  Or is it that you don't actually know me?

Just the other night I was so Fucking nice to someone who made fun of me and the work I do TO MY FUCKING FACE.  It took everything I had not to lay that cunning linguist (see what I did there) out! I am sorry that you think what I do for a living is something to make fun of...you won't be laughing so FUCKING Hard when you have to come and get tested or G*D Forbid that test comes back positive.  In fact I smiled and the FATHER FUCKER and refrained from reading him like I had a test the next day!

Oh shit, y'all Stupid Boi is angry...as usual.  I am just so tired of feeling like I don't measure up...no matter what I do.  Just once I want someone to stop saying "you do good work" and actually help!

I am sorry that I had to post this...it just had to come out, because I can't spend one more night crying.  I have done some real damage to my self-esteem, self-worth, and my mental health.  I just can't take this anymore! I know I should be more "thicked skinned" but I am not.  Sorry I cannot be the nicest most humble person in the world. 


Thank You,
Stupid Boi

Stupid Boi asks: "Does it really get better?"

On the eve of the Out of the Darkness walk here in Bloomington; I want to talk a little bit about suicide and bulling. 

Our children our killing themselves, because we as adults cannot understand how to live harmoniously.  In turn we teach our children to hate and spew this hate. Hate is a learned event!  This isn't something new!  If this was just a recent event, there wouldn't have to be organizations like the Trevor Project.  We need to remember that when we as adults hear children spewing this hate, it is our obligation to stop it. 

I take no issue correcting a child about hate speech!  I don't care if it changes their mind or even the parent's; I know that when I do, another child who feels helpless may find hope in that action. 

I want to also take a moment to talk about "It Gets Better".  I love this idea of spreading a message of hope.  That one day it will get better.  I have found so many friends and "family" that make my life complete.  However, yes there is a however, I had a friend in Iowa who committed suicide not because of childhood bulling; but because of the bulling he felt from his own community!

Brothers, we are bulling ourselves!  That dirty look you give in the bar because someone doesn't meet your standards of beauty or when someone says "hello" and you ignore their politeness.  That too is Bulling!  Not everyone in this world is attractive to everyone else, but I think it is important to know that there is a moment that someone could just be polite.  

I learned early that "Reading is fundamental"!  While I get that most of the time is should be in good fun, some of us take it too far.  Sometimes you just don't know where someone is in life.  Take a moment to get to know the person sitting next to you at the bar. Make a statement by making your group of friends the most accepting.

We are bullied by our own image of perfection. There are so many people in our community that are so interesting!  The other day, I meet someone who is much older than myself and learned that he used to be a dancer in Vegas and Europe.  We had so much in common (Musical Theatre love).  Had I allowed myself to be the person who I want to be, the bully; I would have never meet such an interesting person.

I urge you to take a stand against bulling, invite someone new to your table, you don't know what they may bring.  It is so important that we show these children that it Truly Gets Better!

Stupid Boi takes a deep breath!

I love Davey Wavey! Even when I am have a really bad day, like today, I can just read his blog and it makes me feel better. Lately, I have been feeling a lot of “I’m not ___________enough” to do anything. When I went over to Mr. Wavey’s site I found this  Davey Wavey


It made me feel that I could do anything. On a side note, “Feeling Good” started playing as I was reading it. This just goes to show that even when it seems that the Universe is out to get you…it really isn’t. (that wasn’t terribly poetic…sorry).

So today I am going to just take a deep breath and let the Universe take over!

Stupid Boi at a Crossroads

You know the saying "never meet your hero!"   I have learned that lesson many times.  However, I feel that is only half the truth.  I feel that sometimes you make friends and then somehow they become your hero!  Sometimes, they say things to you that affect your whole out look on life. 

Someone said something to me in passing the other day and for some reason I have just been thinking about it a lot.  I guess that means it was really meant to be something that you needed to here. That's all I wanted to say tonight. Nothing too profound...just keep your eyes open and your heart full!

XOXO,
Stupid Boi

Stupid Boi wants a Little Respect!

Yes, I am going to talk about Ricky Martin! I just want to say…Thank you! Thank you for being a brave person! Thank you for showing the world that you cannot hold us down any longer. To the rest of you who have come out…THANK YOU!

Coming out is a process that is lifelong. Actually having to admit to the world that you are a part of one of the most…if I may…Fabulous groups on earth; is difficult. All joking aside, coming out is very difficult. I am blessed with a family who is open minded. Others may not be so lucky.

Before you start with the whole…”who didn’t know he was gay?” bit, think about it. Did you have to come out? If you didn’t then how would you understand? The only choice we have in the matter is to be open or closeted. We didn’t choose to be gay!
So all I am asking is for you to respect people when they do come out. It is one of the most difficult things to do.

What's Your Coming out Story?